Bring “The Spark” Back into your Relationship PART 1

Our relationships take work. Most of that work involves time and an effort to be able to remain vulnerable with your partner. Here are 5 ideas that you can use to rekindle “the spark” and be even closer to your partner.

Set regular date nights

If you google any type of advice that has to do with relationships, at the top of the list would be, “keep dating your partner,” but have you ever thought of why? It’s because date nights allow you to be able to reconnect without the stresses of thinking of the future or other issues that may arise in relationships. You are able to let loose and be your own person again and have fun with the person you love. It is also important to carry those date nights on to the bedroom. Take time on those nights and continue your connection by having fun and stretching your sexual pleasures together.

Be open

It’s easy to get disconnected from our partners. With that, we can experience some negative feelings that come with being apart or pulling away, whether it is intentional or not. It is important to be able to communicate what you are feeling with your partner. I have learned that not sharing what I was feeling with my partner leads to resentment. But it can be avoided. Plan a time to sit down and talk about how you are feeling. If you can’t find the words to help describe how you are feeling, try spending time with each other and answering simple questions or try sentences like, “I felt like (this) when you did (this)”. Once the two of you are connected emotionally and know what the other person is feeling you can solidify your communication with being physical together. If the mood shifts to sex (which usually happens when two people are emotionally connected) you can take the time to get to know each other on many different levels.

Shower together

Showering is not only a time you can be intimate with your partner, it also allows you time to catch up without children or other people around. If you decide that you want to have a little sexual pleasure while you are in the shower, there are many toys that are water proof that can be used while you are in there. Taking a shower together is also an extreme act of service when you help them wash their backs or body.

Plan A Dinner

If you are anything like me then you hate deciding dinner every day. It’s my worst chore. I hate having to think about what me and the little people in my house are going to eat that night, so much so that some days, oven pizza is the way it goes at least 3 days out of the 5 day work week. Unless of course I decide to properly plan the meals to where they don’t take much effort. A good idea to alleviate some stress for the person who always prepares the meals for you, would be to take the reins and do it for them. Surprise them with their favorite meal in the middle of the week.

Now even if you are the one who is always preparing the meals, a great way to make your partner feel loved is to make their favorite meal. Choose a day to make their meal, you are already cooking so it’s an added bonus if you are able to help your partner feel loved. Cooking is an act of love, even when it is just microwaved.

Do Something For Your Partner

This goes hand in hand with meal preparation. Decide to do something for your partner. This doesn’t have to be an elaborate plan. It can be a simple chore that lightens their load. You can even write them a love letter and hide it somewhere they don’t expect it or even go and have something delivered to their place of work to let them know you are thinking of them. Take the time to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and do something that will put a smile on their face. Every time my partner and I are a little disconnected and he decides to put that effort into making my day better, it opens up the door for more communication for us because I feel loved and considered.

In order for real reconnection to take place, remember that it takes getting out of our comfort zone and into a place where we may feel our most vulnerable. Also have fun!

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